Flashback Friday: Identity Crisis #782

Friday, October 15, 2010

I wasn't always a frumpy ol' Mom.

I used to have alllll the time in the world to apply eyeliner and lipstick.

Allll the time in the world to back comb and shield my bouffant.

A new tattoo? Sure, I've got the time. I've got the money.

How about a concert? Heck, how about a whole dang tour? Lets go!

dot dot dot

And then, came real life.
My life.

I'm not going to say that the before was better than the now, because I'd gladly give up all of the backstage passes in the world for my gorgeous children and my rockstar husband, but- sometimes I miss myself.

Whoa, whos that girl?

Oh, yeah, thats the me that I miss.

My hair was midnight and sky high.
My face was thin, and my pout was full.

Its not those specific vanity things that I long for, but more like... the time. The time to have those things.

Recently I've been toying with the idea of cutting my hair shorter. I had always wanted long hair, but once my short style grew out and the long locks grew in- all that was left, was a ponytail full of 3 day old unwashed tangles that had somehow survived buckets of baby puke, 5 miles of pushing a 110 pound double jogger, and at least an hour and a half of yoga.

Oh don't mind me. I'm just having a postpartum identity crisis.

But, while I've got you here-
Does anyone have any suggestions, maybe pictures, of an a-frame-ish style that you think might look good with my current color?

me seven years ago.

Flashback with us! Go through your polaroids, scrapbooks, old crappy cell phone pictures- whatever you've got. Scan them, upload them, get them onto the computer somehow, and then share them with the world! Or... with us at least. Post them onto your blogs, write a little bit to go with them- tell us your story. When you're all finished, grab one of our buttons from down below (wayyyy down there at the bottom of our page) and put it somewhere inside your post (or link back to us the old fashioned text way). Come back here to this post, and add your link to the photo list below!

And if you've got a minute, maybe go poke around some of the other flashbacks posted, and leave a comment on another blog or two?


Mommy Elephant Sarah October 15, 2010 at 12:34 AM  

Funny, I've been going through the same thing lately and I only have one kid!! I cried the other day to my husband saying I lost my cool!! I want to do something with my hair too. Can't wait to see what you end up doing.

Lacey October 15, 2010 at 12:34 AM  

I miss "me" sometimes too. I know one day I will have the time, the energy, to have more of a balance between the two. It's coming. I know it is. I'm just patiently waiting. And sometimes impatiently waiting, but like you, I wouldn't trade 'em for all the cutest accessories and concert tickets in the world!

And by the way, you rock a bouffant like none other, lady!

The Lucky Mama October 15, 2010 at 12:46 AM  

Tia you are beautiful! I too miss the life before babies.. but then I look at my girl & my growing belly & I thank God I was given this life!

Heidi October 15, 2010 at 2:05 AM  

For your viewing pleasure, the haircut that nearly cost me my college boyfriend...

(I TOTALLY loved it!)

AmyLee October 15, 2010 at 2:40 AM  

oh man, i know what you mean. ooooh, to have the time to primp again! to have perfectly tweezed eyebrows & shaved legs every day. i don't have any cute hair-do ideas for ya... just sympathy. it's a good trade though, right? ...right??

Nen October 15, 2010 at 7:44 AM  

my hair is the most boring hair in the world.... so i have no suggestions!! but i look forward to whatever you come up with!!!

Oh Mandie October 15, 2010 at 8:14 AM  

Do it, chop off those locks! I just did cut mine a few weeks ago for almost that very same reason, because all I had were tangled up pony tails. And if you hate it, it'll grow back :)

I think the Tia you are now is pretty darn fabulous, but wouldn't it be nice if there were just a few more hours in the day, and the kids slept during them?

Petals October 15, 2010 at 9:02 AM  

Doesn't everyone go through a postpartum identity crisis? I know that shortly after having both of my boys I chopped off my hair and revamed my personal style. It's natural and yes they are totally worth the squishy belly, dirty hair and spitup covered clothes.

I think this cut would look great on you.

Lauren October 15, 2010 at 9:15 AM  

OMG, how adorable are YOU! If you lived in Pittsburgh we would totally go hang out at the rugby bar together. (that's actually cooler than it sounds...)

I can't be much help with the short hair though... I've been trying to grow mine since January so looooong is all I can think of. Although when I went pixie my goal was always short as possible in back & long as possible in front.

AReese October 15, 2010 at 9:17 AM  

Flashback Friday is a great idea! I just linked up, so thanks! I personally don't look so great with short hair (I think it's because my face has a round shape that tends to just look pudgy with shorter locks), and I really love my long hair. But you look like you have the shape, so I say go for it! Happy Friday!

AlyGatr October 15, 2010 at 10:17 AM  

Oh, I don't know. I still see a lot of "that Tia" in there!

I go through hair identity crisises about twice per year. I grow it, I hack it, I grow, I hack. These days shorter hair is my friend. When that gets old, I'll grow it out again.

Do it...you look so cute with short hair :)

beka October 15, 2010 at 10:28 AM  

Definitely cut it.
It'll be something different, easier, etc.....and sometimes all you need for the time is some change! :)

Gosh, you were pretty darn rockin'.
But I think you're just as awesome now. Really I do.

Christine October 15, 2010 at 11:10 AM  

loving that flashback! and in my opinion {i do have shorter hair} it is much faster, when you have kiddos! happy friday :)

EydĂ­s October 15, 2010 at 11:43 AM  

I do not understand the covering of your freckles - I think they are gorgeous.

Yeah, but I remember the primping thing. I am not even sure I own more than a tube of mascara & a compact now.

Bombdigity October 15, 2010 at 1:26 PM  

Tia I seriously think this is a mom thing and it happens during the 18 yr kid raising time frame ... or its a girl thing and we get bored with seeing the same thing every day and want to change/reinvent/be sexy ourselves ... dude seriously, I chopped off my hair about a month ago ... was standing in the shower and was like OMG its got to go, its so boring ... so I grabbed my shower scissors (yes I really do keep a pair in the shower for these moments) pulled my hair into a somewhat pony and chopped it off ... 8 or 9 inches ... the top half is layered/choppy and the underneath half barely touches my shoulders ... the top half got colored red hot and the underneath chocolate cherry ... the top is kinda messy layery and the underneath gets flipped up ... it kinda reminds me of how Jennifer Aniston had hers way back at the beginning of Friends, only shorter and sassier ... I think you could pull it off! or go short and spiky with long side burns kinda that curl along your jawline ... can't wait to see what you do ... and remember, it will always grow out ;o)

jill October 15, 2010 at 3:54 PM  

oh the lives we used to have...haha! i sometimes get in that funk too. and the hair thing, i battle with short vs long too and mine is in a pony tail most days too. cant wait to see how it turns out though! and i adore the pic of your old self! so cool!

Renee October 15, 2010 at 4:51 PM  

I miss me too...I actually don't remember "me" too much now though!! I go through the whole long and short hair thing too although right now I am trying to grow my hair out, I've decided I look much better with longer hair! You look fabulous back then and now!!

Marisa Hopkins October 15, 2010 at 8:46 PM  

Aaaah, you're so cute!! Love that picture of you!!

Rj and Jessie October 15, 2010 at 9:53 PM  

Omg, so cute! :D Can't wait to see what you do!

kebowman October 15, 2010 at 10:28 PM  

i love it!!!!!! i'm headed to my blog to work on my Flashback Friday!!! :) talk to ya soon! :)

brittanygodfrey1 October 16, 2010 at 7:34 AM  

Its sort of a hard mix....I feel like we got married young...had kids young. So, I tend to wonder what would have become us had we waited for a few years on kids....I guess we will get our "free years"....maybe:)

They call me mommy... October 17, 2010 at 10:53 AM  

Oh geeze, it's like you took the words out of my mouth! I have been dealing with a similar crisis for like 2 years and I still don't know what to do, I'm not even totally sure that I remember the old me... I was just thinking the other day how much I would love to have a sitter for the kids so my husband and I could go out..but what would we do? I don't even know what I like any more? The hair is just one of many issues I have.. I think you look beautiful either way! Wish I could help more!

Stephani October 17, 2010 at 6:01 PM  

I think I'm probably quite a bit older than you, but sometimes I think back to my twenties and wonder where I went? It's easy to let life get in the way of life sometims isn't it? It's important to take some time for yourself to be yourself. I'm glad I've changed since my twenties, but a think I was a bit more carefree then. Thanks for hosting!

BeckyKay October 19, 2010 at 3:21 PM  

I'm right there with you. My hair is quite long again, but most people don't know that, because it's always in a ponytail. It will be gone soon. I'm thinking something along the lines of Kiera Knightly's new do.

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